Let me first start by saying that Women, we put up with a
lot of shit! For days I have been contemplating if I should or should not write about
this subject that is so very relevant in women’s lives today; self-respect.
What is it that makes it ok for us to feel as if we must accept anything
because we love them, we understand them, or because they say they love us but
can’t seem to get it right. What is it about us that makes it ok to be used and
abused just because they feel the hurt can be mended by the I’m sorrys, I love
yous, I didn’t mean to hurt you and the I don’t want you to leave statements. Why
are these wonderful lines so common? Or the, you’re not worried about her, they
want everything you have or I don’t love them, I love you and that’s the
difference lines. I mean, WHAT? Did you
really just say that? And the nerve of us, we go for it, time and time again, we
go for it. Is it because we don’t think we are worth more than the three words and
occasional time. Is it that we feel we are missing out on a good one and if
only we can be understanding they will see the potential in us? After all, the ones that put up with the shit ultimately
get the ring in the end? In the end meaning that we are waiting on something,
meanwhile passing up on the ones that will and have given us everything
we know we deserve, based off the idea that it may or may not be. Do we settle because we feel as if our
standards are too high and that we should lighten up because after all who
wants to be alone?
I ask though, aren’t you still alone when they are with
someone else and you are home wondering when they will act right. Aren’t you
still alone when they can’t come to functions or do the things you want them to
do because they would rather be private with you but all out in the open with
the other bitch? To make matters even worse, aren’t you still alone when they
rather be with themselves more than they would rather be with you?? That is not
LOVE. Is that saying really true that
people keep the one they love hidden because they don’t want anyone to come in
between that??? Is that the way it’s supposed to be?? And ladies, miss me with the I stick with him because all he does is step out but he always comes home and he takes care of me in every aspect.... its not love. I don't believe for one second whether I stick with you or not that you love me completely if you cant keep your little penis in your pants. period. So riddle me this…. Why do
we accept the bullshit?
Your spouse should expect from you what you expect from them
and Ladies we should not accept anything less. Actions speak much louder than
words and I have realized that no matter what is said and when it is said,
listen to the actions. The words are actually the perk. If they love you they
will show you, if you are down and out they will take care of you and support you,
not just emotionally and mentally but financially. Get off this I don’t want to
ask for money or help because I don’t want them to feel like I am a gold digger
or I just want their money tip; you know you are not after their money;
however, Ladies, you should NEVER EVER EVER have to ask your spouse for money,
to wash your car or even give you an oil change. I know it sound crazy but you
are supposed to be taken care of in every aspect. I mean if they love you, if
they really care…. Just like they expect sex and a good meal, you expect that
shit too! Just like they expect emotional and mental stimulation and support you
should too! Just like we want to make sure they are having an awesome day or
run their bath water after a long day at work, it is ok to expect it too!
Because just as much as they deserve that from you, you deserve that from them.
Period.
If your energy cannot be reciprocated then they are not for
you and vise versa. If you know what they offer you, you cannot offer them then
you are not for them. Maybe later but not right now; let that shit go. If its supposed to be, it will come back the right way. It is ok to be single, it is ok to have what you want in
a spouse and it is ok to continue until you get it right. Because believe me
you, we will get it right eventually. We must demand the respect ladies and the
more we demand respect the more we will get it. Respecting us should be the
norm, not the other way around. We ARE worth it! Always remember that. You don’t
deserve anything less than what you deserve and you don’t have to accept shit
from someone that does not deserve you. Respect yourself first; you are a priority.
